Choosing a Baby Name
The all-important decision of what to name your baby makes it feel like you’re giving them an identity. You don’t want your child to have the same name as five of their friends, but you also don’t want to name them Moxie CrimeFighter or something no one can spell.
It’s a hard balance to strike. And then there’s the fear that you’ll pick the perfect name and suddenly it will shoot to the top of the charts and everyone will be named Emerson or Fiona.
Naming Baby Two was a hard decision for me. Our girl name for Christian was Abigail, a name A.J. has always loved. We assumed it as our girl name with this pregnancy, too.
After our gender ultrasound, I was assuming she was Abigail, but I wasn’t 100% sure. It’s a beautiful name, but I had two issues with it: 1) it’s extremely popular (the seventh most popular baby name in 2010), and 2) it’s almost guaranteed to be shortened to Abby, and I think Abigail is prettier.
A.J. suggested the name Tabitha, another one he’d always liked. I hadn’t considered it before, but I found myself liking it because 1) it’s an old name that everyone knows how to spell, 2) it’s not popular, and 3) it’s part of a meaningful Bible story.
So we decided on Tabitha.
I have to admit I’ve had second thoughts since then, mostly because people associate the name with Bewitched, which I’ve barely watched. I hope that won’t stick, though. After all, Samantha was a witch too, and people don’t constantly make that association.
Most people I’ve asked really like the name, and that helps. So does this celebrity baby, Sarah Jessica Parker’s daughter Tabitha Hodge Broderick (on the right). Isn’t she adorable?
I also think Christian and Tabitha sound cute together, and Tabitha sounds good with our last name.
So… I think I’m still set on Tabitha. I’m hoping my second thoughts wear off by the time she’s born!
What are some of your favorite baby names, or what process did you go through deciding what to name your baby?
I really like your choice of Lincoln for a boy.
we choose the first name in the bible and their middle name is a family member or close friends name, we like to leave 2 legacy, one from the Family of God and the other from family here on hearth make sense?
I like that.
That’s a beautiful idea!
I LOVE the name you chose.
We can’t have any names ending in the long E sound, because it sounds terrible with our last name. We didn’t want any names too popular or weird, and I really wanted a unusual, interesting middle name with flair, because I say my girls middle names a lot… not just when I’m mad, ha! Keira is a name I loved since I was a child, and Brianna (we say it with AH sound in the middle.) was a name my husband really liked–I wanted Fiona, but he flat out refused thanks to Shrek, so I settled for Brianna, because it had a similar sound. Then I grew to love it. I insisted on standing on our front porch and yelling the names together to see if they sounded good together. I’m sure the neighbors thought I was strange. And yes, we ripped the names and initials apart into every possible nickname and dirty meaning and whatever else just to make sure there was no chance they could be made fun of horribly, since we both knew people that have had that happen. I LOVE the stories of how people choose names. I have the perfect boy name all picked out, but no plans to get pregnant, haha!
I love the name Keira.
I have heard the best test of a name is similar – calling it out on the playground and seeing how it feels!
Timothy’s middle name is the first name of both our paternal grandfathers as well as the middle name of my dad and oldest brother. I think it took about 2 seconds to decide on it.
His first name was a bit harder–there were several biblical boy names we liked, but unfortunately many of our family members have the same taste in names so nearly all of our favorites had been used by cousins. After a few weeks of debating, though, we settled on Timothy and it fits him perfectly.
Our girl’s name is still a secret, though I would like to change the first name next time around.
Timothy is my dad’s name.
I like it. Do you plan to nickname him, or do you want to keep it as a full name?
We were undecided until he was born–then we started calling him Timmy, TimBob (for Timothy Robert) and the day he was born we somehow dubbed him Bubs. (I doubt that one will last many years, though!) We figure that he can be Timmy now–just seems for fitting for a baby/little boy–and then decide what he wants to be called when he’s older.
We went through the same thing with choosing our baby names. We had it narrowed down to three by the time Wyatt was born, and then we just wanted to see what he looked like before making the final decision – and Wyatt just seemed right. I love the name Tabitha! I’ve never watched Bewitched, so I never would have associated it with that. It’s a Bible name, and I think it sounds great with Christian too!
Wyatt is the PERFECT name for him, in my humble opinion… it suits him so well! I’m glad you like Tabitha.
With all three of our kiddos we picked out one family name and one we just liked. We both come from pretty large extended families, so picking something no one else had proved very difficult, but Jeremy didn’t want anything “too different” either (and his idea of different and mine are not the same!) I would have loved to have picked out some Bible names, but they all fell into one of those 2 categories.
I also immediately think of the Biblical sense when I hear Tabitha, but I’m reallllly bad about shortening names, so I would just end up calling her Tabi. BUT, I make knicknames for everyone I know. My friend Janell is Janello, or ‘Nell, I call my bff Grace, “Grape” because I’m just one of those annoying people who likes to give other people knick-names. That and because I’ve spent my whole life being called Annie Bannie, and Banana, and FeLanna, etc, etc.
Every time we’ve come down to picking names, God has revealed a really neat thought behind their meanings. That has been really special to me…Q is named after my husbands Grandma, it was her middle name and I always loved it, and thought it was so masculine. His middle name is Hubby’s middle name, which incidentally, he was called by (Matt) up until he was in jr. high.
Sprigs name was one we’d picked for our girl name when we had Q. Hubby just loved it, but I wanted Audrey. I begged him to let me name her Audrey, but he loved the other better. Then God showed me what a neat meaning was behind it, and I loved it, too. We rarely ever call her by her name, she gets called Lexi-Jo the majority of the time.
Her middle name is my middle name. Not sure what we’re going to do when #3 rolls around, we’ll have to give he/she someone else’s middle name!
One of my all-time favorite girl names is Jocelyn, or “Josie” but that’s my nieces name. Drat. I love naming babies! I’d have two or three more just for the fun in that.
I think your name choices are just darling and classy names.
Oh yeah, and we obviously can’t do any nature names. No Lily, Iris, Magnolia, Paisley, Rain, River, etc.
That’d be just awkward.
We somehow decided on our boy name without much debate–it’s a Bible name, but not one that either of us have known anyone to have, it sounds great with the middle name we will use (hubby’s deceased father first name)–and so it was decided.
As far as our girl name–ay yi yi. What a pain! We can’t seem to agree on a name. We have 3 that we go back and forth with and we both like 2 of them okay and love 1 of them…of course, we don’t like the same 2 or love the same 1
Guess if Baby L ends up being a girl, we’ll make the decision based on which name she “looks” most like.
I love Tabitha and it’s not a name I would have thought of, because I don’t hear it often at all! Can’t wait to see what Miss Tabitha looks like <3
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I think Tabitha is a very pretty name!! My husband named our two bith children, and the other 5 were already named…we actually have the problem now tih having too many names picked out for kids we would like to have! Too many names, not enough kids…lol…I beeter get busy!{wink,wink}…hehehe
I think Tabitha is gorgeous. We chose to name all our children after grandparents, uncles etc…. very tradition for where we live (a Scottish island). I do love many Biblical names, but I have no real regrets about going the ‘family’ route either.
Yep – Tabitha is really beautiful
I think Abigail is BEAUTIFUL, but Abby eh… We changed our plans for Gooner as our original choice somehow made it to top ten. So we changed it! I went to a site where you can choose like the top 100 names for girls in like the 1700’s. It was a lot of fun!
I’m trying to avoid the top 10-20 too. Actually, I prefer to avoid the top 100 altogether, but Christian is somewhere in the 20’s-50’s. Oh well…
I like both names, Abigail and Tabitha but Tabitha is unique these days…and it would become Abby:)
We named our boys after names we liked, and mostly family names. I love Biblical names, they always make me think of the bible stories.
I love Tabitha, it’s beautiful!
So is Abigail.
I have so many “favourite” names and one of the fun things about writing is that I get to give the more “unusual” ones (that I would never give to a child!) to a hero or heroine in a book!
If God gives me a husband and some children someday, I know I’ll want my children to have beautiful names with beautiful meanings. I think Tabitha is one of those – also it’s cute for a baby girl and lovely for a grown-up girl.
Thanks, Elisabeth! I loved getting to choose names for my characters when I used to write stories.
I like Tabitha.
I actually never thought about it, but I like it.
I really have no idea what I’d name my kids if I had any. My parents named the three of us with names that meant something, and that is important to me, but most of the names I liked as a child I’m not really sure about. I’d like to name a boy Bradley Scott (hubby’s name reversed) but not sure about the initials meaning something not so great. So I will probably be one of those moms who don’t decide until the last minute.
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Howdy!
I’ve not commented before but have been reading for couple months now. We are 33 weeks with our second girl (3rd child) and tonight we pulled out our name discussion topic again. Our discussion reminded me that you had switched the name, but I never read the post and it got marked as read in my google reader…so I came to check it out.
We don’t keep our names secret either and I really like that. I like hearing what other people are thinking…because if I really like a name, what they say won’t sway me…and so it helps me determine if I really do like the name!
We’ve been “trying on” Evangeline for the past few weeks and are fairly certain that that’s going to be her name…it’s sticking quite well for us!
We have our little Abigail too, and we picked it because it was a family name and a Bible name and didn’t realize until we started looking for names for this girlie how popular Abigail is!! What a shock!! Oh well!!
In any case, I enjoy your blog! My un-important opinion on Eliza is two thumbs up!
Thanks, Lisa! I love the name Evangeline and it was one I suggested for this baby too.
We had a friend whose little girl had that as a middle name so it was a little too close to hers. I love Abigail and Evangeline together… so pretty!
And now that I’ve posted my comment…I see I maybe should’ve posted it to the name update…! Oops!








I think about what the name gets shortened to as well. Our kids’ names don’t shorten very well
I think Tabitha is very pretty. The other names we considered for Kaylee were Lydia and Chloe. I love both of those – maybe a grand-daughter?