Comments on: Getting Ready for Marriage

By: india

india — Mon, 07 Feb 2011 19:12:27 +0000

hey thanx for this blog it helps out alot, im a 22 year old single female wanting to get married one day (hopefully soon) but right now i kno the Lord is preparing me thru proverbs 31 an also thru readings like these so thank u an God bless

By: annabelle

annabelle — Tue, 10 Aug 2010 01:05:21 +0000

wow. the maturity here impresses me. no wonder your hubby was too! I feel the same way about this, and in the past years i have been consciously preparing myself for marriage in ‘invisible’ ways, but everyone looks at me like i am crazy. I hope that ‘he’ appreciates it!

By: Callie

Callie — Tue, 05 Jan 2010 00:04:52 +0000

Yep, I’m definitely with you on the “Getting a Handle on The Emotions” one. Still not very good at that, but I’m working on it.

By: Anna

Anna — Sun, 03 Jan 2010 03:59:56 +0000

Stephanie and Erin, thanks for your thoughts on this! Very good points! Candice, thanks for stopping by.

By: Elizabeth Ellen Moore

Elizabeth Ellen Moore — Sun, 03 Jan 2010 02:08:55 +0000

This blessed me. Thank you!

By: Candice Watters

Candice Watters — Sat, 02 Jan 2010 17:39:48 +0000

Thanks, Anna, for your thoughtful comments on the issue of “what to do while waiting.” Yours was a more thoughtful and ultimately helpful, and practical, commentary than the post on the CT blog for women. Congrats, too, on your soon to be born son! Candice

By: Erin

Erin — Fri, 01 Jan 2010 21:42:43 +0000

Wow, great article. Nice to hear from someone who is recently married and can remember her single years so clearly. I have to admit that I am often preparing myself for years of singleness because I don’t want to be ‘preoccupied’ by marriage.

One of the best things that I feel is helping me achive many of the things you mentioned was that (because of circumstances outside of our control) my brother and I had to move out of home while at university. We share a flat and I’ve learnt so much about keeping to a budget, cooking and running a household just from this experience.

And I second the idea of saving close friendships for girls, not guys – that is the thing I see most often messing up my friends relationships.

By: Stephanie

Stephanie — Fri, 01 Jan 2010 19:30:43 +0000

Some good thoughts to ponder, thank you, Anna.

I’m 25 and single and am learning that this season of life, like others, takes a lot of faith. I desire to be a wife and mother, and yet, that hasn’t happened yet. While I certainly haven’t put my life on hold (I run a small business, am working through a correspondence writing course, and am involved in an evangelism ministry), I still have made decisions that definitely take into account this hope for a future “career” change.

I think it comes down to seeking God’s heart, surrendering desires and plans to Him, but then also having the faith and courage to live the way you feel He is leading you in your particular circumstances. (Even if it doesn’t make sense to this world!) Some marriage-minded girls may be lead to earn a degree or pursue a career, some may be led to work at a job while participating in some form of ministry or learning skills. Some to stay home, some to move out.

The job I’m in isn’t something I want to do forever, but it’s a good way of setting money aside which will hopefully bless my husband and family someday. It also gives me time to pursue skills which will be useful and a possible source of income – like writing or teaching music lessons from home. I guess this is where the faith comes in. I feel God has led me to make certain decisions based on my hope for marriage, but at the same time I know it is possible that God doesn’t have marriage planned for me. Either way, I believe He has a purpose and plan for these decisions. I know I am rambling, but I just wanted to add my perspective.

I’m still figuring this all out, walking one day at a time, leaning on Sovereign God.

By: Eva

Eva — Thu, 31 Dec 2009 22:11:39 +0000

Great article. Good thoughts. One thing about your 4-year, debt-building degree – there have been many times when your dad and I wished that I had a degree with which I could earn more substantial money to be more of a help to him in our later years. So, it still may come in handy someday. ….all things together for good….

By: Mrs VK

Mrs VK — Thu, 31 Dec 2009 19:23:42 +0000

I guess for me, I just expected to get married at some “older” age not any sooner than 28 ~ maybe even 30 or later and so just kept myself busy for that indefinite time while always improving on my homemaking (hopefully). And now, 3 children later and not 30 yet, I am not sorry for all the time and effort that went into that…but maybe it was more my parents direction that helped me to do that. I just know that it was very helpful to plan for not being married at any near date while always realizing that it could happen around the corner! It does seem awkward to think like that…but it is very helpful! It is sort of how we are to be ready for Christ’s return right? Not sitting on a hill waiting but always being busy while being ready for whatever time He returns!