Worth from God, Not Men

Welcome to the first entry in the Soul Sisters series! Click here for the introduction to the series.

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Today’s truth:
You are a creation of God, and your worth comes from that fact, not from what the males around you say or think.

For many years, it has been a struggle for me to not let my heart be ruled by fear of what the guys around me think of me. This post is as much a reminder for me as for you. It’s not that other people’s opinions are completely unimportant, but I should not allow myself to be so self-absorbed that I am constantly anxious about what anyone thinks.

Whether or not it’s true, we sometimes attribute unrealistic expectations to guys based on what we see and hear from the culture around us. We may feel that we fall short of real or imagined expectations about body image, attitude, confidence level, being loud or quiet, and countless other characteristics.

But a guy’s measure of you is not the ultimate measure. No matter what he may think of you or say about you, you have someone else on your side, someone who loves and values you infinitely more than any man ever could.

Sometimes we know this in our heads, but not our hearts. It’s easy to brush off this truth as a cliche. Yeah, I know that God loves me. But I want this guy to love me. That’s what really matters.

Let me challenge you to spend time studying and thinking about the love of God and letting the truth of His love for you sink deeply into your heart. When I have a proper heart attitude about the awesomeness of God, the immensity of my sin, and the grace and forgiveness of the gospel, I find His love for me so much more compelling. I want to be concerned with my attitude toward Him on any given day, with how I am loving Him and loving others through Him.

When we have this heart attitude, we are far less likely to spend time obsessing over what the men around us think. Knowing that we are made and loved by the great God of the universe can bring incredible perspective and worth to our lives. Let me close with a few words from Scripture reminding us of this powerful truth.

“The Lord is gracious and merciful, slow to anger and abounding in steadfast love.” (Ps. 145:8)

“I have loved you with an everlasting love; therefore I have continued My faithfulness to you.” (Jer. 31:3)

“For I am sure that neither death nor life, nor angels nor rulers, nor things present nor things to come, nor powers, nor height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God in Christ Jesus our Lord.” (Rom. 8:38-39)