Rules of Consideration (Part 2)
(You can read Part 1 here.)
In the last post, I went over what I do to make the couples around me more comfortable. So here are some things I think couples can do to make those around them more comfortable (specifically dating or courting couples; I’m not really referencing married couples here, although some of it could apply to them as well, I guess).
- Don’t always assume I need to make special arrangements so you can be alone. I think it’s the couple’s responsibility to find a place to hang out one-on-one if that’s what they want. I don’t go out of my way to change my routine and plans so that a couple can be alone, especially if I haven’t even been asked to. It’s up to you to make the arrangements and find out if it’s okay with those around you. Don’t expect them to disappear!
- Be considerate of others by keeping PDA to a minimum. PDA = public displays of affection. Enough said about that!
- Make time for your friends, not just your significant other. A dating relationship or courtship is not a marriage, and even spouses need a healthy amount of time spent with other people. Don’t just hang out with your friends as a couple. And don’t make a habit of canceling on your friends to hang out with the boy/girlfriend.
What do you think? Am I being reasonable? Do you have any to add?
1 Comment to Rules of Consideration (Part 2)
Hi Anna! I love your blog.
Thanks for visiting mine and especially for the encouragement. I would like to add an image or two like you have and I know I will get there eventually. I had a Xanga too for almost 3 years but it finally dwindled down.
I really enjoyed your posts on singleness…especially the being-around-couples do’s and don’ts. I work at a church with mostly families and young married couples. All of the girlfriends I have here are married so I have a lot of lunch dates but it’s just not the same as with my single friends. And what’s hard is that my girlfriends all say that they still need those friendships with girls but there are dynamics of the friendships that change now b/c of their marriages. So I know what you mean. 
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I'm Anna. I'm 22. I love reading and writing. I'm a recent college graduate living at home. And I hope you are blessed by what you read here.
June 12, 2007